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What Parents Can Do

What can parents do?

What to look for:

  • Excuses for not wanting to go to school
  • Unexplained bruises, torn clothes
  • Loss of appetite / hungry after school
  • Need for extra school supplies or money
  • Sleep problems
  • Secretive / sullen / temper outbursts
  • Rushes to bathroom when arriving home
  • Frequent trips to the school nurse

What else can parents do?

  • Keep factual records of the events, not opinions!
  • Contact the building leadership and share details
    • What happened
    • What was said by whom
    • When did it happen?
      • Is this a reoccurrence?
    • Where did it happen
    • Who was involved
    • Who were the witnesses
  • Teach your child self respect, assertiveness
  • Let your child know it is ok to express anger appropriately
  • Encourage and monitor friendships
  • Teach social skills. Sharing. Compromise. Apologies. I messages
  • Encourage Reporting (means student does it because it is the right thing to do) VS Tattling (means student does it to get someone else in trouble)
  • Do not advise ignoring or attacking the bully!!!
  • Encourage your child to stand for what is right and follow the steps:
    1. Student should let the bully know that they expect the behavior to stop verbally or in writing
    2. Student should discuss the issue with their parent / guardian
    3. Student should report it to an adult in school as much factual detail as possible
      • What happened
      • What was said by whom
      • When did it happen?
      • Is this a reoccurrence?
      • Where did it happen
      • Who was involved
      • Who were the witnesses

What can parents do if their child is the Bully?

  • Evaluate if this behavior is being modeled at home – seek counseling if needed
  • Do not use physical punishment, or humiliation. Instead remove privileges
  • Keep in mind you don’t have a bad child. You have a child that is making poor choices. Therefore address the behavior. All you want is the behavior to stop. All children are capable of learning.
  • Think about your parental supervision. Does it have to be increased? What else can you change regarding parental supervision? Are you too much of the “good guy”? Are you too much of the “bad guy”? Is not a matter of finding fault, it is a matter of changing behavior.